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The War Vet, the Dating Site, and the Phone Call From Hell

Source: National Cyber Security – Produced By Gregory Evans

“Please don’t go!” Jared’s mother, Kathy Bowling, begged him. “This is why I don’t want you to go!”

“This is why I have to go,” he told her.

Two months after he graduated, in May 2012, Jared packed his bags to join the Army. In his spare time during training, he recorded videos of himself in his camouflage uniform, singing pop songs and Christian hymns, which he uploaded to his YouTube channel. He was deployed to Afghanistan less than a year later, manning a .50-caliber gun atop a Buffalo, a moving-truck-sized armored vehicle.

Jared had wanted to see combat, but the reality of it hit him harder than he’d imagined. He was terrified one night when his base came under rocket fire. Two of his buddies were blown up in a truck. But that wasn’t the worst of it. Jared told his brother about one particular firefight where he was blasting away with the .50-caliber gun. “I don’t know for sure, but I might have killed a child,” he told Jacob. He didn’t want to say much more about it.

After a patrol in Kandahar Province one day, Jared injured his back while getting off the Buffalo. He was flown to a hospital on a base in Germany. There, the doctors put him on painkillers and told him he couldn’t go back into combat. After barely six months in the field, he was done as war-fighter.

Stuck on base, his ambitions crushed, Jared started coming unglued. He hit the bars every night, drinking heavily. He got a local woman pregnant. He was caught driving drunk and confined to barracks. He made a clumsy suicide attempt with pills, which got him placed in psychiatric care for a few days. By October 2015 he was discharged and back home in Greenville.

Though his parents, sister, and two brothers gave him a hero’s welcome, Jared was lost. “All my life I wanted to be a soldier, and now I can’t do that,” he told Jacob. “I just feel worthless.” He bounced from job to job and between his divorced parents’ houses. As the months went by, his once muscular physique turned soft. Jared had nightmares and occasional panic attacks and got into bar fights. He was diagnosed with PTSD and prescribed antidepressants. Stuck for a job, he bought a Jeep and started driving for Uber. Over Kathy’s objections, he also bought a stubby black 9-mm pistol to keep in the car, for protection.

By mid-2018, though, things were looking up. He was dating a local girl. He had a dog, a lively German shepherd he called Tex. He’d landed a great job for a chatterbox like him, selling phones and internet service plans at the local AT&T store, and he and Jacob had moved into an apartment with a balcony overlooking the complex’s pool. The brothers would cook, watch football games, stream Netflix with their girlfriends. Once a week they’d have dinner with their mom and then go into town to drink tequila and sing at DT’s, their favorite karaoke bar. Just about every time, Jared would wail through his three signature songs—“Drops of Jupiter,” “Bohemian Rhapsody,” and “No Diggity.”

The caller said he was a police detective. He’d been contacted by Caroline’s parents, who were outraged that Jared had sexually propositioned their daughter.

Though he and his girlfriend didn’t mean to get pregnant, Jared was overjoyed when his son Jaxon was born. He stopped taking the antidepressants; he wanted to keep his head clear to be a good dad to the baby.

Before long, however, Jared split with Jaxon’s mom. Suddenly he was a part-time single dad, fighting regularly with his ex. He turned to Tinder and soon started seeing a young woman whom I’ll call Lisa—she doesn’t want her real name published. But from time to time, he still cruised dating sites, and in early September he came across the pretty blonde who said her name was Caroline Harris. The two chatted on the dating app. When she said, “I’ll be 18 in a few weeks,” he replied, “Oh that’s cool when will you be 18?”

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#cyberfraud | #cybercriminals | Alpharetta Warning Public About Online Dating Scams, Threats

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ALPHARETTA, GA — The City of Alpharetta is warning the public to be cautious when using online dating websites after a citizen was recently blackmailed.

The Alpharetta Department of Public Safety recently took a report from a citizen who was using a dating app and made a decision to send intimate pictures to the person they connected with, the city said.

“The victim has now paid thousands of dollars to the person to keep those pictures off social media channels,” the city said. “The perpetrator, in this case, has not gone away and continues to threaten and demand more money from the victim.”

Cyber dating and the apps that make it possible attracts millions of people. Many in search of companionship, many seeking long-term relationships, and many seeking to steal identities or worse, the city said. The world of online dating is fraught with top-of-mind risks (Is that photo really the person I’m talking to? Could this person be a predator?), but there is also a growing list of concerns related to data privacy.

“The fact is, dating sites and apps have a history of being hacked,” Alpharetta said. “For example, in 2018 BeautifulPeople.com was hacked and the responsible cyber criminals sold the data of 1.1 million users, including personal habits, weight, height, eye color, job, education and more, online. In early 2019 detailed user records of more than 42 million dating app users were found on a Chinese database that was not even protected by a password. The user records found on the data base contained everything from IP addresses and geo-locations to ages and usernames, giving potential hackers plenty of information to take advantage of.”

But, there are also many stories of people who found each other via online dating apps and are in very happy relationships today, Alpharetta wrote. So, the city said it does not want to scare any adult away from using them. The city said it wants everyone to be safe with their online dating activities.

With that in mind, here are a few tips that the city encourages all online daters to use:

Account Security

As with all of your Internet accounts, use a strong, unique password and two-factor authentication, if it’s available.

Beware of anyone sending you links, and especially links using shortened URLs. Hackers will try to lure you away from the dating app to sites that can more easily harvest your data. This is one of the most common Tinder scams. Rest your cursor over any link before you click it to see the address.

Only ever access your dating app on a secure WiFi network. An even better option is to protect the Internet connection of your dating app with a trustworthy VPN. This will add an extra layer of security to the app’s encryption.

Privacy And Social Engineering

Never share your full name, address, or place of work in your profile. Tinder, Bumble and Happn all allow users to add information about their job and education. With just this information and a first name, Kaspersky researchers were able to match a dating app profile to a LinkedIn or Facebook account 60 percent of the time.

Do not link your account on a dating app to your Facebook account. This makes it easier for hackers to connect your social media profile to your online dating one. It also would expose your data if Facebook were to suffer a data breach.

Using the same logic, do not link your Instagram, Twitter, or WhatsApp accounts to your dating app or share them in your profile.

For accounts or relationships based on your email, don’t use your everyday email address. Instead, get a separate, anonymous email just for that specific app or relationship.

Always disable any location-sharing features in your accounts on dating apps.

If you are uncomfortable sharing your cell phone number with someone you just met online, there are services that allow you to create a separate phone number. These services give you temporary phone numbers that last a couple of weeks for free or for a small fee. Since they are temporary, it is hard to use such a phone number on your dating app account, but it could give you some time to meet your matches in real life before you trust them with your phone number.

If an account looks suspicious, try doing a reverse image search of the profile pictures. If your search finds the photo is from a modeling agency or a foreign celebrity, you are likely looking at a fake account.

Eventually, you will have to share information about yourself. You are trying to convince someone that you are interesting enough to meet. Try to talk more about your interests, ambitions, and preferences and avoid specific information that could identify you. More “I love pizza” than “My favorite pizza restaurant is on the corner of Main St. and 2nd Ave.” Never be afraid to say “no” if someone asks you for personal information that you’re not yet comfortable sharing.

Avoid sending digital photos to users you do not trust. Digital photos can contain metadata about when and where the photo was taken along with other information that could be used to identify you. If you must share a photo, be sure to remove its metadata first. Also, always keep in mind that any explicit pictures you send could be used for blackmail.

If you are chatting with someone and they are responding incredibly fast or if their responses seem stilted and full of non-sequitur questions, you should proceed carefully. While it is possible you have enchanted someone so thoroughly that they are struggling to respond coherently, it is more likely you are chatting with a bot. Online bots are getting harder and harder to detect, but one test you can try is to work gibberish into a phrase, like “I love a;lkjasdllkjf,” and see if the bot repeats the non-word or transitions into a non-sequitur question. (If it’s a human, you can always cover by saying your phone slipped.)

This may seem obvious, but if someone asks you over a dating app to send them money, your answer should always be “No.”

Do not immediately friend your matches on Facebook. Once someone has access to your Facebook account, they can see your friend and family network along with your past activity and location. Wait until you have been dating for a month or two before friending them.

Physical Safety

Have a mutual understanding of boundaries. No matter what kind of date you have planned, it is always safer to know exactly what you’ll be doing. By discussing a plan beforehand, you can both go into the situation knowing what you are and aren’t comfortable with.

Meet in a public place first. No matter what kind of date you’re going on, it is always safer to meet in an open and public place first. Avoid meetings that take place in remote areas, vehicles or anywhere that makes you feel uncomfortable.

Always let someone know where you are. Before meeting up with someone, let a friend or family member know where you’ll be. Some apps let you share your location with others so that someone can keep an eye on you during your date.

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Tinder hacked? #Scary #security #flaws discovered in #raft of popular #dating apps

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Tinder hacked? #Scary #security #flaws discovered in #raft of popular #dating apps

A bevy of mobile dating apps including the infamous Tinder, have vulnerabilities that could reveal a user’s messages and the people they have viewed in the apps.

Researchers from security firm Kaspersky Lab found that it was very easy to effectively online stalk Tinder, Bumble and Happn users due to the amount of information the apps display about their users, such as jobs and education, as well as linking to easily accessed Instagram accounts.

With this data, the researchers found that in 60% of cases, they were able to find a user’s social media profile on sites such as Facebook and LinkedIn, which reveal the person’s full or real name.

Furthermore, stalkers with a bit of technical nous and plenty of time on their hands can use location based apps like Tinder and Happn to work out a user’s exact location.

“Even though the application doesn’t show in which direction, the location can be learned by moving around the victim and recording data about the distance to them,” the researchers explained.

“This method is quite laborious, though the services themselves simplify the task: an attacker can remain in one place, while feeding fake coordinates to a service, each time receiving data about the distance to the profile owner.”

But more alarming still is that in a clutch of dating apps data flowing between them and the social media sites they connect to in order to authenticate user’s, mainly Facebook, is vulnerable to interception.

Authentication tokens from Facebook can be stolen by hackers and used to gain access to the victim’s dating app account. From there the hackers can access messages and other user-specific content and activities.

“In addition, almost all the apps store photos of other users in the smartphone’s memory. This is because apps use standard methods to open web pages: the system caches photos that can be opened. With access to the cache folder, you can find out which profiles the user has viewed,” the researchers added.

This situation isn’t helped with some of the apps found to be transmitting unencrypted sensitive data, for example Mamba transmits message data in an unencrypted format.

Kaspersky Lab has alerted the app makers, who should move to fix the vulnerabilities, but in the meantime the researchers suggest users of dating apps don’t put their job or place of work on their profiles and avoid unsecured public Wi-Fi networks.

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